I received an email from one of my newsletter subscribers accusing me of bragging and being annoying. It was kind of hard to take. Rather than deleting the email and allowing this person to continue on their path without interuption from me, I decided to respond.
The exchange that occurred is worth sharing (he granted me permission to share the exchange). So here goes...
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Tom-
I don't know if you'll even get this, because when you send stuff, it's obviously in HUGE BULK.
You're regular e-mails have been quite repetitive; to the point of being annoying. When you constantly speak of the money you have made, and the 'strategies' YOU use to build YOUR subscriber lists, bank accounts, etc... it becomes BRAGGING, and eventually becomes VERY annoying.
You are being removed from my e-mail list. I have been working as a teambuilder professionally for 2 years. Honestly, if your programs work, they speak for themselves.
To Heck with the bragging!
(Name Withheld By Request)
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Hi (Name) --
I read every email sent to me and I'd like to respond to yours...
The "Build a List" teleseminar you refer to was offered one (1) time. It is the only time I've shared how much money I made by selling the multimedia CDs I've created.
Why did I share the dollar amount ($10,000 in 5 days)?
Many who subscribe to my newsletter are small business owners / entrepreneurs (independent trainers, facilitators, coaches, etc.) and dollar figures tend to grab their attention.
I offered the "Build A List" teleseminar to help other small business owners / entrepreneurs realize their dream quicker. I want to help others who are choosing to play big and help people on a global level while also living a life in harmony.
I've been self-employed for the last 10 years and I've invested tens of thousands of dollars in my business and was, at one time, in serious debt all because I didn't know how to live my dream of helping people on a global level AND make money.
How many people have a big dream but go broke (spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially) doing it?
I've gone through some very scary times in the last ten years and had many a heart-to-heart conversation with my wife to discuss giving up on my dream. I thought many times about giving up because of my concern for my two young kids (ages 2 and 7). You can relate to my fear if you've ever been unable to pay for health insurance for your kids or wondered how you would put clothes on your kids if it wasn't for hand-me-downs from friends and relatives.
I didn't give up. I stuck with it. And the "Build A List" teleseminar represented a way for me to share strategies I've learned (the hard way) that have helped me grow my business and reach more people all while being present in the lives of my children.
You said: "Honestly, if your programs work, they speak for themselves."
My business is working for me and I'm excited about it. I now serve 25,600+ people in 101 countries! There are some who would like to know how I've been able to experience this success (I receive regular email inquiries on this). If I operated from fear, I would say "Figure it out yourself". But that's not my way.
I recognize you didn't like the idea of the teleseminar. But what about the people who attended? What did they have to say? You can read some comments from participants of the teleseminar HERE
Two people who attended my teleseminar own and run a teambuilding business out of their home. They want to grow their business so they can reach more people. If you were to talk with them, they would tell you they are called to do this work. And they have two children. What strategies would you offer them to combine their passion for building their business (to create positive change in the world) with their passion to be great parents? What if my teleseminar helped them do just that? Would it have been worth sounding like I was "bragging"?
I apologize to for coming across as "bragging" and "annoying". I hope you can forgive me.
You've raised a great point. One I don't want to get lost in our exchange. I would like to post your email and my response on my website which will allow others to comment on the same. I won't share your name or contact info (unless you tell me to). Why am I doing this? I've learned that the more transparent I am, the faster I will grow - - in my business and spiritually.
Thoughts?
Tom Heck
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Wow-
Tom - Let me apologize for my attitude. I honestly didn't think you would even read my e-mail! Thanks for your honest reply, and feel free to use my e-mail for your site, without naming.
Yes, I can relate to your 'scary times;' although I don't have children, I currently work in the health industry as a teambuilding professional, using experiential education. My 13.80/hr. hardly pays
the bills! I only do this because I love it. My heated e-mail stemmed partly from jealousy, and partly from frustration at work.
I am currently the owner of a teambuilding business that never got off the ground. I had (and still have on standby) a website, framework, business plan and employees ready to go. Then, it was shot down before it ever got off the ground, due to a supposed 'conflict of interest.' I work for a non-profit agency, but was told if I went ahead with my business, I would lose my current job! I've been looking for another job ever since, but there is nothing in my area. Needless to say, I'm very frustrated!
Rest assured that I am now a devoted subscriber!
Thank you for your response, and again- I apologize for my attitude.
Sincerely,
(Name Withheld By Request)
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Hi (Name) --
I accept your apology. :-)
I relate to the frustration you're experiencing over not being able to fully express your genius in your current job.
Know this: everything you've gone through is perfect. AND it's also perfect that you have a strong desire for something more/better.
When I stepped out into the unknown world of entrepreneurship ten years ago I was totally unprepared. The only thing I had was an intense desire to help lots of people. I was told by many people that most businesses fail within the first couple of years (the odds were against me) and that it would be "safer" to get a job.
But I don't believe we were put here to live a "safe" life.
The questions that helped guide me then (and still do today) are:
What is the legacy I am leaving?
What would I do if I knew I would not fail? If I knew I would be supported every step of the way?
Blessings!
Tom
Just after I resigned my teaching position, I read a speech written by Gatto. The speech was entitled Why Schools Don't Educate and was delivered when he received the New York City Teacher of the Year Award (he taught in the classroom for 30 years). Reading the speech caused me to stop in my tracks. I felt as though Gatto was speaking directly to me.
We were at at small conference center. It was just after lunch, half way through the program, when suddenly two teachers started to cry, accusations were made and two staff members became so angry they jumped in their cars and sped off with gravel flying! 
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